SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: July 5, 2009

I regret not telling you i was pregnant, because when you abused me that final time i lost our baby. It was supposed to be your valentine's day surprise, but i shouldn't have waited because you threw me out(because i missed my friends) and mever looked back.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: July 4, 2009

I regret all the times I've held back feelings even when everyone knows something's wrong. The truth really does set you free...

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: July 3, 2009

To my father:

I regret that I never told you I loved you until you were dying.

I regret thinking I had a horrible childhood. You worked so hard to take care of my brothers and I.

I regret hating you for keeping such a close eye on me in my teenage years.

You were the only one who believed in me and the only person who loved me enough to push me to do better. You made me into the person I am today. I love you so much and I wish I could take back every mean thing I ever said to you.

I regret the day I had to take you off life support and realize all this.

F/23

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: July 2, 2009

I regret not telling you how I felt about you 27 years ago. I regret thinking that I didn't want to ruin our friendship by getting involved with you. I regret finding out years later that you were interested in being more than just friends. I regret that the last time I saw you, I didn't have the guts to go up and say hello...I was with my husband and you were with your wife. I regret that I let the man who could have very well been the love of my life get away because I was young and stupid and afraid of being rejected. I regret that I'm unhappy and wonder where you are even after all these years.

F/43

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: July 1, 2009

My wonderful sweet babies, I regret that I was such a self-centered mother. I regret that I didn't take more time with each of you and show you better what amazing and capable little people you were. I regret that I didn't teach you better ways of organizing. I regret I didn't put more structure into your little lives. I regret that I didn't sit down and do your homework with you. I regret that I didn't force you, my little one, to take regimented care of your diabetes. I regret that I didn't instruct you all on how to handle money, on how to eat properly and how to fix dinner and keep a clean house. My heart breaks daily over these things I didn't do. I taste the bitterness and it's so harsh. You are lovely adults but suffer so because I didn't teach you some simple lessons. And I suffer even more feeling this heavy and unbearable guilt.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 30, 2009

I regret that so many people want someone they can't have or don't want the person they do have. I regret that so many people can't be happy with what's in front of them and fully live the lives they've chosen.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 29, 2009

If I had a second chance to do ONE thing differently in my life, I would most definitely be more concerned about my own welfare and less concerned about everyone else's. I had no idea that my 50-something-year-old husband would visit a divorce lawyer in secret with a secret credit card after 25 years of marriage. I was a total optimist and had no concrete plans for his disrespectful actions toward me and our children, one of whom is still a teen. I'm glad he's gone now, but what an unpleasant mess that could have been somewhat mitigated if I had actually been less optimistic and more prone to making sure I had my own secrets--like a nice personal bank account instead of the optimism of a joint account. I've leveled the playing field now by keeping secrets and being far less blatantly honest and open. You can call me "cautiously" optimistic now!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 28, 2009

I regret letting you use me...twice.

I knew you were a player and that everything you said to me was a lie but I made myself believe it.

You got some of what you wanted. Congratulations. Now you won't even talk to me. I look like the fool and you can feel great about yourself.

I'm going to get over this and learn from it. I'm not a whore and I'm not going to sell myself short of what I could be. However, you will continue to be an asshole.

Have fun with that, jerk.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 27, 2009

I regret marrying you 16 years ago. I regret letting you sweet-talk me and romance me into a life of lies and broken promises. You sold yourself as Prince Charming when you were really just a frog in disguise - and you continue to believe that everything's fine with you. That the promises you make and break at the drop of a hat don't mean anything to you..that the 16 wasted years of my life aren't important..that you pretended to support my dreams and then turn around and throw them in my face. I regret that you're so proud that you'd rather see us go hungry, have the power cut off or have us live like gypsies because you can't pay the rent than to ask your family for help...even though they've been offering forever.

I regret that I trusted you even after all your screw-ups ..things will change, I told myself...16 years worth of "he'll change." The only way they'll change is if I leave you and make them change myself.

I regret having to put up a front that everything is great...no one has any idea that I am destroyed on the inside. I regret not having good friends to lean on because you always were always so damned needy.

I regret having to sit in my car at some park typing this because I don't want anyone to see me crying.

I regret not having the courage to leave you because of your health. I regret caring what people would think of me if I left. So I continue to put my happiness on the back burner just for appearance's sake, knowing well that life's too short to waste on someone like you. I stay for our son so he can have his dad...I don't regret having him..but I do regret having him with you.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 26, 2009

I regret that I didn't really believe you when you told me you were raped. I know I told you I believed you, but I only halfway did. I regret thinking that you just got drunk and slept with some guy, then forgot about it the next morning and needed a story to cover your ass. I regret that I called my then-best-friend (when I told you that you were mine) because she was closer in proximity than I was and I regret asking her to help you instead of being a man and doing it myself. I regret not calling the police. I regret not driving up there to be with you. I regret not killing the guy that turned you into what you are today. I regret being the bad friend, always, when you deserve so much better.

Male/23

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 25, 2009

I regret being so detached that I don’t know how to interact with people. I regret knowing so many good people, but not being close to any of them. I regret being too ugly to have a lasting relationship. I regret never having good enough friends to have someone to lean on. I regret that the people I love would prefer to forget me than keep in contact. I regret having so many scars, because I will never feel comfortable enough with you to tell you the truth about them. I regret that no one would inquire, anyway, because they think nothing of the hoodie. I regret that I don’t trust anyone, not for their own downfalls, but because I’m not strong enough to. I regret that I developed hypoglycemia and can’t have an eating disorder anymore; that was the only thing that made me pretty. I regret living as long as I have; I never planned to make it this far.

Mostly, I regret existing, because I don’t do any good for anyone, least of all myself.

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 24, 2009

If I had a second chance to do ONE thing differently in my life, I would have spent more time with my grandmother instead of with a control freak who took over my life, because now my grandma has cancer, i dont want to waste any time, i need to make up for the time lost before its too late

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 23, 2009

I regret that when you came into my life I was still reeling from a very bad relationship. I regret that I had lost all confidence in myself and that it kept me from risking to reach out to you. I regret that I never told you how special you had become to me and how utterly crazy I was for you. I regret that I never told you that I did not want you to go after you graduated. I regret that I did not take you into my arms and did not tell you how my heart was being crushed because you were moving. I regret that I never told you how much I loved you. I regret that I assumed that it was meant to be that way and that I did not go after you. I regret that I cannot turn back the clock and re-do those most wonderful months with you. I love you Kimmers.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 22, 2009

I regret that I am too scared and have too much pride to tell you that I love you. I regret that I may not be brave enough to tell you before you get deployed. And if the worst should happen, I guess I will have one more regret to add to this list. I love you, Jeff, and I'm sorry I'm too chicken to tell you in person.

F/23

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 21, 2009

I regret marrying you. I was blinded by the romance and the unexpectedness of our relationship. And then we found out we were pregnant, I felt overwhelmed with love but fear of what others would say about me being an unwed mother. And you were deploying to Afghanistan. So we rushed. You left. I grew up, you grew mean. Every phone call, you yelled at me, you put me down. When you got back to the states, the boys and I were at the bottom of your priority list. It's been alost two months and you still haven't seen us. I'm glad I can see things so clearly now and I don't have to waste the rest of my life and the boys' lives with tension, and yelling, and fighting.

I've found someone else. He has been there for me through everything. He kept me company when all I wanted to do was fall asleep in your arms. He comforted me when you would make me cry after EVERY DAMN PHONE CALL. He drove me to the hospital when I went into early labor with the boys and slept on the cold hard hospital floor all night and held my shaking hands the next day until my mother could get there. He visited us often at the hospital and drove us when we could finally come home two months later. He loves me. He loves the boys. And slowly and surely, he has gained my trust, friendship, and love.

I choose him.

Your stuff is waiting for you in boxes in the kitchen. Call when you want to come get them.

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 20, 2009

Mom,

I regret never telling you how much you hurt me when you left us, how it broke me.

But more than that, I regret never telling you that I'm ok now and I forgave you a long time ago.

I love you

f,20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 19, 2009

I regret everything about what I did to you. How I told you that you were different. How I built everything about you up. How I showed you how to be better at everything you did. How I showed you your true potentential. But how I didn't show you how to live it out without me around.

I regret giving you a glimpse of what life could be like for someone more ambitious, knowing full well that I never really loved you and that you would fall right back down to what you were before I met you the second I did. Because for some reason you have no ambition.

And I regret being right about all of that. Watching you take back all of your bad habits, and end up right back where you started, broken and bruised. I couldn't fix you, and trying was one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

I hurt you to no end, and I honestly regret that more than anything I have ever done. And this sounds pretentious, but I feel that I gave you a glimpse of true hapiness in all that I did for you that you will likely never experience again. My love was a figment of my imagination, a reason to help you. No one should ever be loved like that. I am sorry.

Male, 20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 18, 2009

I regret having sex with you the first time we ever hung out. I regret having sex with you when I thought you were using me. I regret having sex with you after you told me that was all you wanted. I regret not having more self-respect than that.

And more than anything, I regret that I still want to be with you.

F/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 17, 2009

i regret that i would do anything to lose weight...except exercise.

moreover, i regret telling myself i am comfortable with this weight because then (i have persuaded myself) if i guy is interested in me, it wont be just for sex.

well...there have never been any guys interested...so i guess my dumb plan is working.

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 16, 2009

I regret how messed up our friendship has become. You were the best thing to ever happened to me. You were my back bone, my savior. No one got me the way you did because we were so much alike. But all of that came to a end after some of the things we did. We messed around a few times and it was obvious that both of us didn't know how to react to it. Neither of us have been in that type of situation before and I'm pretty sure we were both weirded out at the fact we did something we both swore we NEVER would. Now I dont even know what to think of us anymore. We act as if everything is fine but you and I both know its not. Its just not the same anymore. We don't have the same type of friendship and its killing me. I love you and I need you now more than ever. I want you back in my life. The old you, the one who was there for me through thick and thin. I miss you please come back to me, I hate that I've lost you.

f/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 15, 2009

I'm missing you right now.
1:15 and I'm still awake.
Thinking about you.


I regret I'm not in your arms.
I love you. Sleep tight.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 14, 2009

I used to regret the fact that you left us. The fact that you left me alone to deal with the destruction that you had left behind. I used to regret that you didn’t work harder just for me so you could have saved my dream of having my mom and dad together. I used to regret the fact that you broke ‘our’ family.

But now I don’t regret it. I understand now that I am older, that everything happens for a reason, and that even though things have changed, you both still love me dearly.

f/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 13, 2009

I regret what I did to a loved one years ago. Even though I have made restitution, it does not erase her lifelong emotional scars.
M/52

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 12, 2009

I regret the fact that you were so good. A great person, an amazing heart. Everyone loved you, and so did I. I regret I'm the one you fell in love with. I didnt deserve you.

I regret that you were the perfect man, my lover, my soulmate. Maybe if you werent so perfect, this tragedy would affect me less.

I regret that I am to blame, because if you never drove those 10 miles to come and apologize for something you didnt do, you never would have died that night.

I regret that I killed so much potential this world could have used.

I love and miss you, baby.
I'm sorry.

F/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 11, 2009

I regret never telling my parents the truthful answer when asked "who hurt you?".

Mom...Dad...It wasn't who you think it was. I was only 12 and completely terrified; He was 18, and had mild mental retardation. I thought that gave him a right to rape me.

I'm still not over it or even remotely okay. I'm asking for help tomorrow. Thank you for allowing me to share my secret and largest regret. One day, he will no longer dominate my thoughts, decisions and dreams. I will be FREE.

16. Female.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 10, 2009

I regret that I got married so young and that I settled for someone who would rather be mothered than to treat me like I'm anything special. I've so settled in to my domestic role I forgot what passion was like and what it meant to feel sought after. I forgot what it was like to be held tightly in a man's arms, to have doors opened for me. I was happy. I was devout to my husband and to my God. I was happy with the feeling of neutrality and my heart was right with Christ.

Then I met you and now I cannot get enough of you. I cannot listen to the Christian radio station anymore, because it reminds me that... even though we didn't have sex, we did so much and I felt so right in your arms. I can hardly look at my husband. I wish I were detached so we could keep doing this--but one mistake is bad enough, and if I see you again... it will be an affair.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 9, 2009

i try to tell myself that i've lived my life with no regrets, but...

i regret that i ever believed a word you said. you said you loved me, but the girl you loved was a 20+ pound underweight, recovering ecstasy/alcohol addict with no self esteem. i had left an abusive relationship not too long before i met you and you were a prince in comparison.

i regret listening to you when you called me fat when i started to put back on some healthy weight. you turned me into a girl that stopped eating and would vomit any food eaten.

i regret thinking that you were the best boyfriend that i'd ever be able to find. i hung on every word you told me, good and bad. i thought you were my world, and i started cutting again when we'd fight (which was quite often).

i DON'T regret finally realizing during our last fight that i didn't need you, love you, or want you. because now, i'm healthy and truly truly happy. AND i'm with a real man that actually loves me and respects me for who i am, flaws and all.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 8, 2009

I regret falling in love with my best friend. She will never love me, because she's not attracted by women. She's more beautiful than anyone I've ever met, or even imagined. Her eyes make my heart race. She holds my hand platonically, it drives me crazy. She said my face was dreamy, I want to tell her that her face takes my breath away. Everything about her does.
I regret that I will never tell her, because she would force herself away from me. But I know that if that happened, I would regret it more.
I hope she never reads this.

18F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 7, 2009

I regret having an affair with my (much older!) married colleague while you and I were on the rocks. Now that things are better between us, I regret that I cannot find the strength to end the affair. What's worse, is that even though I will never leave you and he will never leave his wife, I'm not sure I want to end it.

But most of all, I think I regret the fact that you have had plenty of opportunities to notice but haven't.

F/27

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 6, 2009

I regret thinking that someone like you could ever love someone like me. Maybe I've really crossed the line that divides the popular and unpopular in school. I've let you toy with my feelings. I regret thinking I was worth it because I'm not. Now, you're back to being popular and dating popular and pretty girls.

I regret that I don't dance and she's a cheerleader.
I regret that I look like a tomboy and she looks like a princess.
I regret that she wears high heels and dresses and other girly stuff when I never did and will never do.
I regret wearing glasses and braces.

I regret that no matter what I do, you'll still be to good for me.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 5, 2009

I regret not being in love with you anymore even though I still love you. I regret that I will never leave you because I'm the only family you have and your best friend. I regret that I can't share this with you, my best friend, and it tears me up inside. We shouldn't have gotten married and I know that now, but will never tell you, because I love you too much to hurt you.
34/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 4, 2009

I regret giving you my heart and falling in love with you too quickly. I regret that you took my heart and made me feel wonderful for a little while, because then you decided to shred my heart and my self belief.

I regret that because of you, I jumped into another relationship and broke a good man's heart because I still wasn't over you. I regret that it took nearly a year after I finished it with you, to realise that you were too selfish to ever give me the future that you promised me: one where we were together and loved one another equally.

BUT, I do NOT regret telling you to go f*** yourself when you came crawling back to me the other night, with excuses and apologies. I AM PROUD of myself for having been able to stitch my heart back together. AND, I am so grateful that I have finally found a man that I love and who loves me back.

So...I don't regret meeting you because now I've grown from the experience, will never tolerate being treated like that again and, most importantly, I've learnt what a real loving relationship should be.

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 3, 2009

I regret when people ask me how you and I are. And then I am speechless, because I am bitter. You have done some shitty things to me, but when everyone asks what happened to us, I can not answer them because I am not sure what went wrong, it is a blur. I regret those 2 minutes of sex with him, it was completely meaningless and I just needed to feel loved for all those lonely nights I had been though, and I regret that I did it because I knew you were out with some other girl. And I regret that we were never offically together, so I never got my closure when we stopped being whatever we were.

You will regret the day I turn 21 and graduate college with my BSBA in accounting, and go for my MBA. I am more than a pretty face and good body, you will regret that you do not see I am the whole package.

F/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 2, 2009

I regret that you had to leave me alone. I am 32 years old and I want my mommy back. I regret that for almost my whole life you were fighting to stay alive to spend as much time with us as possible and somehow I still managed to act like a spoiled brat for several years and deny you and I more of the time we had together.
I do not regret taking care of you. I do not regret saying "I love you" hundreds of times before you died. I do not regret one moment, no matter how hard some of them were, as long as we were together.
You have been gone 22 days, and it feels like a lifetime. I miss you mommy, I will see you soon.

F/32

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: June 1, 2009

I regret being mad at my son because he is moving to be with a woman that doesn't deserve him. I regret taking it out on him because he won't tell me he bought and mailed a pregnancy test to her today. I regret knowing I probably won't love this child as much as I do my other grandchild. This makes me feel like a horrible person.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 31, 2009

I regret the fact that we're $50,000 in debt (outside of mortgage and cars) and that you have no idea. You hate your job so much, and if we didn't have this debt, I could support you in walking away.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 30, 2009

I regret that I didn't make you go to the doctor. I know you thought you were being a burden and that you didn't want to bother anyone, but I loved you and taking you to the doctor would have been something I would have done because I loved you. Instead you suffered and put it off and ended up dying. I have a hard time forgiving myself for not forcing the issue with you. I have a hard time looking at your children and not feeling guilty that they are being raised without a mother because you and I were both too stubborn to agree on getting you to the doctor.
Female, age 32

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 29, 2009

I regret that I don't get to kiss you and hug you and have your arms around me. I regret that I can't see you or be with you or touch your face while I look into your eyes. I regret that when we say we love each other it's never in person, only on the phone. I regret that you and I don't get to go to bed together in the evening and make love all night and then wake up together in the morning.I regret that you and I will not have our chance to be happy together that should have begun 25 years ago. I regret that we will always be in love, like we always have been, and that we will never be together like we deserve.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 28, 2009

I regret letting you kiss and touch me knowing you were getting married in two days. I regret still having feelings for you, and wishing you would change your mind.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 27, 2009

I regret telling my classmates that a mentally disabled girl should go jump in the dumpster because she was a piece of garbage. I wanted people to like me, and I have regretted saying that ever since. It hurts me every day, and I hope that she is doing well now because it breaks my heart just thinking of that moment. That was eight years ago.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 26, 2009

I regret that I let you hurt me so bad that two years later, I'm still afraid to begin and be in relationships. I regret that you used me so that you could pretend you're not gay. I regret that you were so selfish. Mostly, I regret that I gave you so much power over me. I wasted my time. You broke me at such a young, fragile age.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 25, 2009

I regret losing my virginity to someone I didn't love on our wedding night because that is what a good Mormon girl does. I wish it had been with my high school sweetheart...

27/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 24, 2009

I regret thinking I fell in love. They say it is better to have love and lost then to have never loved at all, but at this point I am not sure I believe that. I don't even know if I was really in love. How can you date someone for two years, and then they just get tierd of you? They don't miss you, they don't talk to you, and realize that they enjoy life without you. While you haven't gone one day without thinking about them. I regret letting this person into my life, and not being able to let them go. Eight months have gone by. I convinced myself that it was all my fault. I convinced myself that he was and will always be the greatest person I will ever meet. And even though the reality is that it wasn't just me, I regret everything I ever did to ruin our relationship. Every single thing. Because he was my best friend. No one has ever understood me or stuck by me like he did. In those two years together, we both went through some of the roughest family times of our lives. But we always had each other. How can he not miss that friendship? How can we just not talk, and how can this devastation on my end be so onesided? How is this fair? How can you experience so many things with someone; then erase them from your life, and enjoy doing it? I regret feeling things so deeply. I regret the love, or whatever it was that I shared with him. Because nothing, absolutly nothing, is worth the pain in my heart I have felt for the past eight months. I begin to regret who I am because of this person. I begin to regret everything in my life. I wish I had never met him. I want to let go. I want to stop feeling my heart breaking and re-breaking every day of my life. I regret letting him ruin my junior year. I regret letting him distract myself from pursueing the bright, promising future I have always dreamed of. Because the reality is that at some point I will move on. I don't deserve this; but I am ultimately doing it to myself. I am letting this happen to me, and I regret not being able to stop.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 23, 2009

I regret having an affair with you.

I regret falling so hopelessly in love that I believed you when you said your marriage was falling apart.

I regret believing that our affair was different and that you wouldn't possibly have another mistress.

I regret staying with you anyway...and marrying you after eight years of broken promises.

I regret my miscarriage and your reaction when I got pregnant--from the man who said he wanted lots of babies!

I regret that now I'm too old to have babies, because now I realize that's the only reason I stayed with you in the first place.

I regret that I don't mind that you're gone so much anymore.

I regret that I don't even care enough about you having an affair that I don't snoop anymore.

I regret that I'm happiest when you're gone.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 22, 2009

I regret saying "yes" when you asked me to marry you. I didn't want to hurt your feelings. After all, you're a poor college student who spent $2000 on a ring.

You say you can't imagine your life without me, well...

I can imagine mine without you.

I'm sorry I didn't tell you sooner.

22/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 21, 2009

If I had a second chance to do ONE thing differently in my life, I would have fought for custody of my brothers instead of moving out and abandoning them. I survived. I'm not sure that they did.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 20, 2009

I regret that you are a laxrat and that i am part of the popular crowd so that makes it awkward for us to like each other. I wish I could talk to you with out it being awkward and i wish you would ask me to prom and we could be happy.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 19, 2009

I regret desiring you. I was fine on my own without anyone until you came along. I regret that you've made me want someone in my life. I was settling into being single. I regret having to tell you the secret about myself that makes me not "too good to be true."
I can't change it but I regret being irreparably burned in a previous relationship and having to carry this horrible confession on to future relationships hoping that the person will desire me dispite having and incurable STI.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 18, 2009

I regret that I did not file for a divorce immediately after the first time you screamed and threw things at me - in front of the kids. Because the kids then get a negative impression of married life, and will likely behave similarly in their marriages when they grow up.

Its not your fault, I understand that you yourself were brought up in a similar household. But, there is no need to pass on the same characteristics to our kids.

-m/36.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 17, 2009

I regret still think about you five years later. We never even had anything more than a friendship and that one almost kiss in high school. I regret allowing myself to think you are really a superhero, because I always felt so safe when you were around. I regret not having followed through when I should have held hands with you and skipped down the back hall. I regret leaving the last day of school having not seen you. I regret seeing you at the mall when I was nine months pregnant and feeling like I had failed you somehow. I regret still looking for you everywhere I go, even though I am sure you won't be there.

Most of all I regret dreaming about you at night. It only makes me feel like I am cheating on my husband and son.

JUST GET OUT OF MY HEAD..
Female 22

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 16, 2009

I regret that I didnt meet you before you met her. I know that the experiences you had with her make you the man you are now but its because of those experiences that you can't love me as fully as you loved her. As your wife I love you completely and I know that you love me very much. But I also know that she hardened your heart and although I'll try my hardest for the rest of our lives I don't think that part of your heart will ever come back.
Female 23

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 15, 2009

I regret:
The fact that I don't know how to have a relationship with a man, that isn't solely based on sex, and I'm too scared to learn.
That I find it so easy to have meaningless sex, but I can't trust anyone enough to let them know who I was, who I am, and who I want to be.
The fact that these days, the only calls I get on a Saturday night are from guys who want to "get on me."
But, I don't regret the fact that I'm learning to like myself enough to ignore the calls and text messages, and just stay home.
20F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 14, 2009

I regret hoarding pills for when the pain gets too bad. I wish I weren't such a coward.

female/50

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 13, 2009

i regret that i wanted to hate you and i cried hoping you werent going to be born. i felt you were going to ruin my life but the minute i saw you last week for the first time and looked into your gorgeous little blue eyes i loved you from the bottom of my heart. you are perfect in every way and you have changed my life for ever.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 12, 2009

I regret being the biggest mistake of your life. That my existence caused you so much pain.
I regret being different from my sister and brother.
I regret being the middle child.
I regret being born.


F/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 11, 2009

I regret that we're not friends anymore. I hate all the pictures of us lying around in my drawers, and on my dek, reminding me of how we used to be. I thought you'd never let me down, i thought you were different. Turns out you're just like the rest of those girls with their pretences and so-called promises.

I haven't done anything wrong, and i regret that you've just decided you don't want to be my friend anymore as if its my fault. Open your eyes Alex. This is stupid. We'll never be how we were again, but its not just your fault, its also hers, for allowing her to change everything like this.

If you could see my diary entries now, you wouldn't be treating me like this, you'd know....

You ignored my last letter, my card asking to sort things out. You laughed about it with her, and won't return my letters. You won't see this, you never take the time to look at websites like this, but someone else might. She might tell you, and its my last hope.
What else can i do.
Maybe she's not worth it.
She used to be.
Maybe too much has changed.

f/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 10, 2009

I regret that when I was young and impressionable and pregnant that I listened to my parents and commited in my heart to having an abortion...and miscarried a few days later. I feel like I cursed that baby with my thoughts and didn't get the chance to change my mind. And now that I'm older and married with my own precious children, I carry a deep shame in my heart that no one seems to remember but me.
f/31

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 9, 2009

I regret that I tried to be June Cleaver when we married so young and spoiled you rotten. You grew accustomed to me taking care of every detail in your life, agreeing with your every thought, thinking that's what a good wife does. I regret now your jealousy, your insecurity, our arguements and tense moments over bills, kids, your job, now that I'm no longer plastic and have found my voice. And I blame myself. How could you be in love with someone so transparent? I regret not knowing at 20 that a decade later we'd be completely different people. And now knowing now what to do about it.
Female, 32

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 8, 2009

I regret getting married at 20 just to get out my parents house not knowing that I had other options.I regret staying married for 10 years even though I was UNHAPPY, because I didnt want to disappoint my father. I regret wasting my ex husband time and not telling him that I was unhappy sooner. When I found out he cheated that was the happiest day of my life because I knew that I could walk away from the marriage and not disappoint my father. I regret not going to college earlier, and now at 30 single and divorced im doing that.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 7, 2009

I regret the fact that i hate my dad.
The fact my mom drinks to much.
My eldest brother never talks to me because he has Aspergers disease, which makes it near impossible for him. I regret not being able to pick up the phone and call him, he should know how much i love him and I'm so proud of all his hard work.
I regret my other brother is going to the military soon. I regret that i cant be proud of him for having the guts to fight for a country he wasn't even born in.
I regret that i've posted on this multiple times, when i can look back and see my life isnt that bad.

f/15

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 6, 2009

I do NOT regret making the decision to wait for you. I will miss you so much, but knowing (actually knowing, not just hoping) that you love me back is enough to keep me waiting for you. It will be a long time and I will be lonely but I have so much faith that this will work. it has for the last 2 years! I'm not going to regret not waiting for you.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 5, 2009

I regret having parents who don't understand, who refuses understand, and will never understand. I regret having parents but being better off without them. I regret being unable to have a happy family. I regret not being able to remember a single happy thought about my childhood. I've given up on wondering why I had to grow up so fast. You are overbearing, inconsiderate, and ignorant, and it makes me sad to know that I you gave me life. I hope I will never turn into you. You are spineless, two faced, and not at all the selfless savior that you try so hard to make yourself out to be. I once had a good relationship with you, until I realized that you'll never be able to grow a spine. I hope I never marry a man like you. You two were supposed to have been my role models, my heros; isn't that how children view their parents? Well you both disgust me, and it wouldn't hurt me one bit to spend the rest of my life without ever crossing paths with you both again. To this day, I still wish I was adopted. I'd rather be given up by unfit parents in hopes of more for me, than to have to live with the facts that MY parents, the ones that made me, are simply unfit. You think you know it all, you think you're model parents but you'll never understand that it is YOUR fault that you've lost the respect and love of 4 children, and your last one is already planning is escape. Hopefully one day you'll realize that you're not the saints you believe you are. Only then will I learn to respect you ever again.

20/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 4, 2009

I regret not staying with you just because I didn't love you.

We could have been happy, I know it. You loved me from the very bottom of your soul and I hope you find someone else to fill those shoes.

You drove all those miles to save my life that night, even when no one was supposed to be on the road. I could have died, and you saved me. But I followed my heart, holding out for someone that I could fall in love with.

And trying to find that person has brought me nothing good. I'm so sorry I hurt you.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 3, 2009

when you said that I am your best friend, I felt relieved because you are really my first friend. I have never had a friend like you due to how detached I was from everyone in school. Now three years later, you and I have both grew from kids to adults, and we have both changed so much since then. I have many jumbled thoughts and emotions that I still want to write out, even after three years. But I am sure its useless to post them. So here is my biggest regret:

Since that night three years ago, I regret chasing for success and trying to better myself, and in turn giving up the short but amazing friendship that I have had with you. Because being poor and unsuccessful is better than being alone and miserable, and having an actual friend is better than actually find the material success I am looking for. I should have just totally embarrassed myself and said how I really felt, instead of just smiling and not taking off the mask I wear facing people, and leaving these regrets online where you probably will never find it.

M/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 2, 2009

I regret that I never talked to you about your cutting, I knew everything you were saying were just cover ups. I regret that because I didn't speak to you, our whole family is changed and will probably never be the same. I regret that ever since that day when we all found out, I've had to grow up and act the adult. I regret that I feel like I can't save you.

Female/18

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 1, 2009

I regret not calling you back after you hung up that day. I didn't know that your life would end that night. I wish that you weren't in that car. I miss you everyday. "I hate you" were the last words I ever heard from you, they still haunt me....I love you.

f/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 30, 2009

I regret showing you my heart..because in the end you broke it. I believed all those lies after I helped you try and get over your wife..that you're now going back too. I thought you were the one, and you made me think you felt the same. All those plans, were all lies. Lies I sadly believed. The worst part, is I sit here late at night and wonder, what did I do wrong? What could I have done to make it work? Why do I feel so unworthy?

Nothing will take the countless night of tears away.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 29, 2009

I regret that moment of silence, when you told me to tell you what was on my mind. I regret staying quiet, biting away my tears, not wanting you to see it was killing me too.
I regret that moment between when I had you and when I didn't, because it's been years and I can't stop thinking about it.

I regret staying quiet in the last moments that you loved me, I took them for granted and I thought I wouldn't miss you.

I regret that moment when you walked away, how I was fully capable of running after you, and having a teary reunion in the middle of the street, because I dream about it every night.
I regret letting you go, I shouldn't have. I keep telling myself it was the right decision but it wasn't.
I regret everything, I regret this life I'm living without you.

SECRETREGRET OF THE DAY: April 28, 2009

I regret that you are the kind of person who is satisfied with the life we have now. I'm not satisfied. I still love you and I don't want to break up our family but living like this everyday while we take each other for granted is so sad. I try to start intersting conversations and plan things for us to do together with out the kids and initiate sex and it doesnt seem like you even notice my effort. Seems like you are going through the motions.
The worst part of this is that there is a man who has been loving me and wanting me for over 25 years. He adores me now. He loves me now and wants me now. Everytime we talk he lets me know how important I am to him. He tells me he loves me many times a day. He makes me feel so much more loved than you do and I have not seen him in over 10 years. I wonder if you would say you loved me ever again if I stoped saying it first?

I cannot break up my family. I regret that you are the kind of person who could live like this happily forever. It's killing me. I regret that you will never get dissatisfied enough to leave me.

f/41

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 27, 2009

I regret that everytime we get a phonecall to say you've drunk yourself into hospital again I hope that this time you won't make it out. Partly so that you'll stop hurting everyone around you, and partly because it seems like a dead brother would be a good story to tell.

22/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 26, 2009

I regret allowing them to think I deserved what you did to me. I regret telling them I seduced you, that I wanted it. Sometimes I dream of that day, I wake up with tears in my eyes and the taste of your cigarette flavored tongue. I regret that you didn't die in Iraq, because that's what you deserved. What you did killed the kid in me. You took my childhood and left me in the deepest need for it back. I regret that you got off with a slap on the wrist. I regret that I still haven't told you how pathetic you are to your face. RAPING a 15 year old makes you scum. I regret that after, all I wanted was for you to like me. I regret being to afraid to be a victim. I regret that it's been five years and you still have a hold over part of who I am. I regret that what you did defined me to others as well as myself. I regret your existence. Yet I forgive you...


Female 20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 25, 2009

I regret keeping you around after I got in trouble for sneaking out with you. I regret wasting my time thinking that you cared about me. But one thing I don't regret is not replying to any of your messages. And I never will.

F/15

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 24, 2009

I regret sending nude pics to my at the time boyfriend. I didn't want to, he made me feel bad about not doing it, so I did. We got into a big fight and the truth about him came out. He sent them around our school, more than once. A year later, they ended up online where not only did my whole school see them, but a bunch of other schools in the area did, too. I was 14 when the pictures were taken. 15 when they were exposed to the internet.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 23, 2009

I would treat her better than I did back then. I'm still completely in love with her and know now that I could treat her like a princess. Because that's what she is to me. And no one will treat you better than I can Kait. That's a promise.

22/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 22, 2009

I regret losing my virginity in a car in an empty parking lot.
Happy Birthday Will.


Female/19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 21, 2009

I regret applying for the university where I'm studying right now when I could have done much better. I regret saying to my boyfriend that I want him to come with me when I left the country cause he took it seriously and I was just small talking.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 20. 2009

i regret that you got over me. because i never got over you. and i regret that i still try to be your friend, even though you literally verbally abuse me every time we talk. and i regret that nobody else cares, because "he's just kidding" well guess what? he's not.and he wont listen to me when i say stop it. i regret that i sit there and LET him tell me that i'm stupid, and ugly, and fat one minute and anorexic the next. but mostly i regret that i let myself believe him. that i now think i'm stupid and ugly. and one minute i wanna go on a diet and the next i wanna eat a ton of food. all because of him. i regret that i let a guy have so much affect on me.

female.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 19, 2009

I regret that I let you in. I was fine with my 2 kids and divorce on the way, I didn't believe in love or good men and I was just fine. You came, every day for 3 months and I gave in. I fell in love, I believed in you, you made me believe in me, you made me believe in love and good men. I gave you all of me, every inch of me, my heart, my soul, my trust, my love. I was no longer the girl that had been molested by her dad, raped by her best friend when she was 15, let down by her mother who slept all the time because she was depressed, beaten by the man she married at 17 because she was pregnant.(he was 26) I was no longer any of those things...I was your wife and that was the most beautiful thing that ever happened to me. I regret thinking you were perfect, I regret not going to school because being a wife and mother was all I wanted to be. I regret turning my back when I knew something was wrong because I didn't want to face what could be happening. I regret taking you back after your affair because you shattered me, you broke me. I regret loving you enough that it gave you the power to break me. 2 years later I am still broken, you are still trying, and I still don't know if I will ever trust you again.....or let you in enough to love you like I did.
I regret that I loved you so much that you changed my mind about men ;all thinking with their d***s....they all do....I will NEVER let another person change my mind on that.
I regret that you try so damn hard to make this work yet every time you touch me, I see her face. I regret being so weak that I let this affect me the way it has.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 18, 2009

I regret never seeing you when you were diagnosed with leukemia. The truth is i was scared to see you like that. Now i miss you and feel ashamed whenever your name is brought up.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 17, 2009

I regret that i am so selfish that I am not willing to be the one who has to change. It should be me. But instead I pray every night for my husband to fall in love with someone else and leave me, or for the man who loves me to realize we can never be together and just stop loving me.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 16, 2009

I regret the fact that I screwed up the start of my senior year because of you.
I wish I could take back all of those stupid tears I cried thinking we had something and I was the one that ruined it. I'm glad I broke up with you, I'm just sorry I kept taking you back.
I hate that I even fathomed the thought that I could love you or that you could love me. You don't know what love is and neither do I if I thought you were capable of it.
I regret wasting my time with you. You said I made you better and we shouldn't break up because all of your friends thought I made you better, I did. But you made me worse.
I'm so glad I ended it before I did something that time couldn't fix. I should've never given you the time of day
Now if I could just forget you. I'd be on my way to okay.


F/17

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 15, 2009

I regret not punching you in the face when I had the chance. Then you would have something to complain about. Does it make you feel like a man when you put down our mother and follow her around town in your car just to degrade her? I regret losing a brother, but I will never regret losing such a miserable human being.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 14, 2009

I regret that I started cutting myself over two years ago, and that I had stopped for so long only to start again in college. I regret that I am so hard on myself when things don't work out, and that I let it affect me so deeply. I regret losing touch with the only people that used to help me, that I let my support structure go and that I don't open up to my new friends. I hate that I lash out against my physical self because it's all I think I have...I don't what I'd do if I wasn't attractive. I regret losing the strong and loving person I used to be.

Male 18

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 13, 2009

I regret that when we were young I didnt see how much you really loved me. I never imagined that after all the hurt I caused you that you could still feel anything for me. I regret that you never let me know that you still loved me and still wanted to be with me, because I always loved you and wanted to be with you as well. I regret that i was too scared to think that I still had a chance with you after all I had done. If either of us had taken the risk, told the other how we still felt, we would be together now. We would have had more than 25 years of happiness together, instead of being married to other people. You once asked me "What if there was more than one road to happiness?" I know that you are right. We would have been so happy together. We are each others first love and we love each other still, 30 years later, just as strongly. I regret that we did not try harder and will never know what could have been.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 12, 2009

i regret pretending not to notice you loved me in high school.
i regret not filling out the application to go to the same college as you.
i regret choosing not to listen when you came to my show at my college to tell me you loved me...with flowers.
I regret not leaving with you when you came to my wedding to stop it.
I regret using you as the rebound guy during/after my divorce
I regret falling completely in love with you
I regret all the times I tried to prove you made a mistake by ending it
I regret that I can't fall out of love with you
but most of all
i regret letting you ruin every other shot at love I have had.
and i would regret writing this if you ever read it, and realized it was me.
female/ 27

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 11, 2009

I regret that i have not even had the opportunity to screw up a relationship, as that is hard to do when i have never actually had one. No one wants me, and that's fine...i guess.

i regret that after all these years of everything going "fine", i can feel my life falling apart.

If i could say that it had something to do with a guy, idk, maybe that would validate this collapse. It wouldn't be a good one, but at least it would be an explanation.

As it stands, all i can say is "I don't know what's happening. The only thing that's changed is that everything has turned to shit. And i am alone to deal with it."

f/20

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 10, 2009

I regret applying for that job and telling you about it. I knew it was too soon and it scared you away before we had a real chance to see where the relationship could have gone. I love you and saw our future together. I regret that I didn't listen to everyone around me when they said to take things slow because now I am hurting so badly with a broken heart. I haven't eaten or slept right over 6 weeks since we broke up. I miss you so much. I'm sorry.

F/34

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 9, 2009

I wish I'd just told you to go to hell.
I feel like such a coward now, and I still think you're a BITCH.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 8, 2009

I regret leaving everything I'd work so hard for at a time in my life when I needed it the most to move somewhere where I had nothing. I left a great job, in a great city, with family and friends nearby to move to OH where I had none of that. Because of this, I spent the second half of my first pregnancy lonely, miserable, and depressed. I wish I'd had the guts to tell him to leave without me b/c now I am stuck somewhere that I don't want to be with people I don't want to be around. I have ended up things that I said I wouldn't do in life: end up pregnant before being married, getting married b/c I was pregnant and being married to someone I don't love. I regret ever meeting him and I wish I had a time machine to go back 10 years and change things.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 7, 2009

I regret being a curious child and looking through your closet for that favorite pair of shoes you would always hide from me. Not only did I find those shoes but also letters that now make me doubt whether or not you cheated on my father.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 6, 2008

I regret that we had that stupid fight & that we were both too stubborn to back down.
I regret the fact that your gone now & i'll never get the chance to tell you i'm sorry & that i want us to work it out.
But most of all i regret the fact that because of all of this i'm scared to come to your funeral because im not sure if you would have wanted me there,it kills me that you died alone thinking i hated you when really i was just hurt & saddened by what happened,i wish id picked up the phone and fixed things instead of writing this regret :(

I'm sorry x

female/24

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 5, 2009

I regret not leaving you when I first found out you didn't love me.

Now it's many heartbreaking years later and we have children.

Now I feel I am stuck.

I regret not getting an education, so that I could support myself and our children without your money.

I regret that I have fallen in love with a man that I can't possibly be with.
You see- he deserves to build a family. Have his own children. Now that I can no longer have children, I can't ask him to give that up for me.
My children and I come as a team, and while he WOULD love them and treat them as his own, I don't want to stumble across his post on this page one day: regretting giving up his chance at a family for me.

I regret the years I gave you.
I regret the tears I cried for you.
I regret the pain I felt for you.
I regret the life I led for you.

I regret...YOU.

Female/31

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 4, 2009

I regret having posted a regret on here.

F/18

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 3, 2009

I regret ever coming to this school. All it has caused me is pain and torment. I've met some of the worst people that I will ever meet in my life. The people at this place have made my life a living hell. They've destroyed my self-esteem and warped my view of humankind.
I'm so glad that I'm leaving this "Christian" school for a public school next year. Maybe there I'll meet someone who won't ruin my life.

14/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 2, 2009

I regret that I read all these regrets and hoped that I would see one from you.

F/21

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 1, 2009

I regret that I never told my mom that I was abused as a young girl. She would have helped me and maybe things would have turned out differently for me. Maybe I would not have turned out to be so selfish, scared, promiscuous, low self esteem, desperate, hurtful, dependant person. Maybe I would be able to love another person fully and unconditionally now.
I regret that other kids think that they can't tell anyone what happened to them. I have lived with this for so long and I dont want anyone else to do the same.

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